When should someone else’s opinion of you become more important than your own? Never! Yet, too many women appear to surrender their self worth, as if it is expendable.
Self worth is the sense of one’s own value as a person. It is the cornerstone essential to building a healthy life. Valuing ourselves is the source of contentment for everything else. As Sheryl Crow Reminds us, “It’s not having what you want, it’s wanting what you’ve got.”
Women who suffer from low self worth tend to expect less and settle more – as if they don’t deserve better. Going along to get along becomes her mantra, even when it goes against her moral code. Being silent is no better; it’s just another way of signaling agreement.
Has social media magnified this problem? In many ways, yes! The like button may be the worst culprit. I recently had a good friend bid Instagram farewell. She was tired of feeling that the number of likes she received on a post determined her value. I get that.
I’ve caught myself feeling badly when I lose followers, or the likes on a post seem low. Reminding myself that feeling proud of what I put out there is far more important. This is something I continuously work on, because it’s easy to fall into the trap of surrendering your self worth to a number on the screen of your phone.
Not a new thought, but so true; you must love yourself before you can truly love another. Respect is no different. Until you value yourself, it’s difficult to completely value another. Perhaps this may be the cause of so many failed relationships. Sadly, too many women (and men) appear to redirect unhappiness with themselves onto others. This never works because it masks the real issues and prevents the introspection necessary for self-improvement. Focusing on ourselves, learning to love and value who we are, is the key to building healthy relationships with others.
Self worth is wanting what you’ve got, relishing in your authenticity and never, ever giving it away. Guard it – as it truly is your most valuable possession. You’re worth it.
Happy Monday and thanks for stopping by!