Bad days suck. Bad weeks, or even bad months, are even worse. I remember once having a bad year – I called that my dark year. I’ve never actually known anyone to want a bad day, but I’m sure it’s happened.
Bad days, just like people, come in all shapes and sizes. There are a plethora of reasons for having a bad day; fatigue, stress, work, commitments, disappointment, annoying kids or husbands (sorry honey), or maybe it’s another day in your dark year (menopause).
I find myself in a funk from time to time. Occasionally my bad day turns into a bad week. When that happens I feel like I’ve become a poster child for Murphy’s Law – “Anything that can go wrong; will go wrong.” Walking my fur babies tonight I started thinking about this. I’m generally an optimistic person. Yet there are times when I succumb to negative thoughts and feelings.
Unless we’re careful those feelings can take on a life of their own – negativity breeds negativity. Staying in this dark place for too long cannot be good for our soul or for any others nearby. I asked myself, “ Who’s really responsible for my attitude, if not me?”
I was irritated with myself. No matter how mad or upset I might be, with others or myself, I know a negative attitude can become a circular deadlock. Conversely, sweeping our feelings under the rug is just as sabotaging as letting them hang around for too long. The occasional pity party can be helpful. It’s good to recognize feelings when we have them, yet there’s danger in “partying” too long. Try and recognize where those feelings are coming from, what’s causing them and then take steps to deal with them, one by one. Although, this is not easy and can seemingly take forever. We need to remind ourselves that each tiny step forward is much better than no movement at all. We will get there if we work at it.
None of us have control over all the events in our life – mostly life happens to us. When it comes down to it, attitude is all we really have. Fortunately, for most of us, our bad days are far from tragic. A few of my friends have truly kissed the face of tragedy and their experience is beyond mine. Thankfully, most of us will never have to experience such heartache. For us, most of our negative thoughts and behaviors can be minimized through self-improvement – creating a better attitude.
I love this line from Forest Gump, “Life is like a box of chocolates, and you never know what you’re going to get.” But we can choose to find the lesson in each one of them. And if you’re still struggling to find your good attitude, I recommend eating more chocolate. ☺